Why am I single

I have been thinking a lot lately why I can't find a dude to be with. I know I am very picky. I have met dudes online and the dudes I meet are just so lame, or the lie, or just plain not my type.

So I sat down this weekend and wrote down what my type is.

1. Masculine
2. Goal oriented
3. Not materialistic
4. Understanding
5. Truthful/honest
6. Open minded
7. Caring
8. Can cook
9. Independent
10. Common ground
11. Sports fans

Now that I wrote that I also wrote down the dudes that I meet.

1. Dudes that base love on what you have material wise
2. Fem
3. Serial Daters (Yeah Los I am using your word) lol
4. Users
5. Crazies
6. Have nothing in common with
7. Stalker
8. Lame ones

I took both list side by and side and then I evalutored myself and see where I fit into the mix. I learned that I know i wont get all the top 11 things I am asking for but can I at least get 5. LOL I dont know where to go meet guys at. I seem to have more in common with straight dudes than gay dudes but there is on way I am gonna be with a straight dude. He wouldnt be straight if he was with me. For some reason in this area it is hard to settle down and be with one dude. I have tried everything and guys assume alot about me without evening knowing me. The same dudes I try to holla at when I go out the club which is hardly are the same dudes that shot me down. But when they see me online those same dudes come at me. I am gonna put this out there and i really dont care. But i am a masculine bottom. Mos dude look at me and think I am a top til I tell them different. I shouldnt have to tell a dude when I meet him on the street ohh by the way I am a bottom so they will holla back. But those same dudes when they do find out are all up in my face but they only want some ass so I put them on my DNC list (do not contact). LOL Mos dudes in dc are all about sex. I know i have had my share of one night stands, but i finally grew up and decided I wanted more.

I have 2 homies in my life and both of them say i dont give guys chances. Well how many chances should I give a dude before he gets it right. I have this attitude of I dont need you. I get that from all the hurt and pain I have had in my life. I am very strong willed independent guy and some guys cant deal with that part of me. I know what i want and to guys that shows a sign of he is aint weak so I cant get my way with him. Meaning they want a dude to run all over and that aint me at all. My boys be telling me sometimes i have to give up the control. Well I have done that and all I got was hurt. So know I just hold my head up and keep on moving on. I try not to let the single life get me down but it gets lonely sometimes when i go to bed at night. But that is life so I take it with a grain of salt and move on.